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Sex tech has come a long way in the past 10 years—not only in terms of cultural acceptance and awareness but also technology. Gone are the days of sex toys that feel like knockoff action figures and clunky, pink, plastic rabbit vibrators—although rabbit vibes are still all the rage for some people. Today's toys are designed by sex educators, medical professionals, and the world’s greatest sexperts. Unlike in the old days, people with vulvas are very often the ones creating sex toys for vulvas. They're often made of high-quality medical-grade silicone and feature robust Bluetooth connectivity, programmable vibration patterns, and multiple motors designed to help you have a good time. pleasures of anal sex
Because your sexual health is so paramount, sexual self-care is just as essential as all the other forms of self-care, so don’t short-change yourself in this area. There’s never a bad time to invest in a product that will “get you there,” so to speak, and luckily we live in an era when there are so many types of devices from which to choose. These are the best sex toys, vibrators, smart vibrators, personal wand massagers, and accessories, all of which we’ve personally tested. There’s something here for everyone, every gender, every sexuality, and every body. The language on these products isn’t always gender-inclusive, but we approached testing with a gender-inclusive mindset, testing these with different genitals, bodies, and partners. Whether you’re looking for your first vibrator or your 101st, this is the list for you.
Be sure to check out our other bedroom-related guides, including the Best Vibrators, Best Clitoral Suction Toys, Best Lubes, Best Sex Machines, Best Mattresses, and Best Sound Machines.
Updated September 2024: We've added the Magic Wand Micro, Dame Fin, Le Wand Deux, and Tracey Cox Supersex Glass Dildo Set.
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Which Toys Are for My Body?
The sex tech industry has conditioned us to think of toys in terms of male and female, penis and vagina, but that’s reductive and inaccurate, and it contributes to a larger narrative about the relationship between genitals and gender. It’s unhelpful, and I have a lot of feelings about it. We opt to be as specific as possible and use anatomical terms to describe individual erogenous zones—and there are way more than just P and V.
The vulva is the exterior part of the vagina. It includes the labia majora, labia minora, the urethra, and the clitoris. As the center of the erogenous nerves of the vulva, it’s often been said that the clitoris has roughly 8,000 nerve endings, but because the external part of the clitoris is literally just the tip of the iceberg in regards to its size, new research puts that number between 9,852 to 11,086 never endings, depending on the person. The internal structures of the clitoris extend down to either side of the vagina, which is where you’ll find the G-spot—the area stimulated by toys that curve toward the front of your body.
The phallus is what’s commonly referred to as the shaft of the penis, and it includes a couple of erogenous zones. The glans is the top of the phallus, usually referred to as the “head,” and the frenulum is a thin strip of connective tissue on the underside of the glans that can be particularly sensitive to targeted stimulation. Last but not least, the anus is, well … it's the butthole. The rectum is the interior portion that attaches to the anus. Both of these areas can be sensitive to internal and external stimulation.
For people born with phalluses, there’s an additional erogenous zone here: the prostate or P-spot. This is a walnut-sized gland that lives between the internal structures of the penis and the rectum, and it can be reached by toys that curve toward the front of your body. But even those without a prostate can thoroughly enjoy anal sex, anal vibrators, or anal play of any kind, so don’t limit your sexual pleasure possibilities just because you don’t have a P-spot.
Suction toys are life-changing if you've never used one before, and after testing dozens of them, I can say with certainty that the Sona 2 Cruise is the absolute best high-end suction toy on the market. It's one I kept reaching for even outside of testing hours. The body fits in my hand perfectly, the buttons are in places that make sense, and it has a variety of intensities well-suited to just about any preference.
The Cruise part of the name refers to Lelo's Cruise Control technology–which makes the toy increase intensity when you press it hard against your body. It's a smart sex toy, and it's my number one recommendation for anyone looking to try something new and something ultra-quiet. Unlike many suction toys that can be noisy, the Sona 2, like all of Lelo’s products, is practically silent.
Body is made from food-grade silicone. Good for all bodies, targeted suction stimulation for the clitoris, frenulum, or nipples.
Lelo’s Enigma is a weird-looking toy. It not only looks like some device a Stormtrooper would keep under their pillow to, well, who even knows, but looks aside, I can say this: I had one the hardest and quickest orgasms of my life with this toy. Even after I climaxed, I laid there for 20 minutes wondering what had just happened. To this day, I don’t know if it was a blended orgasm, a triple orgasm, or some religious experience that only a heathen can have in the perfect setting.
Like the Rabbit vibrator before it, the Enigma is designed to stimulate both the clitoris and the G-spot. But instead of relying solely on vibration, the Enigma’s clitoral stimulation arm contains a powerful air pulse mechanism for providing suction that imitates the sensation of receiving oral sex. The bigger, rounder end of the toy is where the vibration motor lives. Its body is flexible enough that you can use just one end or the other at a time, but if you use them together, it’s an intense experience, to say the least. Even going slow, the Enigma fires you off into space at warp speed—in a good way. That said, the vibration end is a bit thick at its widest point, so if you’re not comfortable with large-diameter toys, take it slow and easy. Use lots of lube.
Made from food-grade silicone tested to FDA standards. Best for G-spot and clitoral stimulation.
You know the saying “You eat with your eyes first?” I think that's especially applicable to sex toys. The look and vibe of a sex toy have to be important to me; if it's not something pleasing to look at, I'm not going to want to spend time with it. Dame's Dip vibrator is, like other toys from the company, nice to look at. It has lovely color options like a cool, soothing periwinkle and a ruddy, robust plum. It feels sensual, all curves and dips, with a little peak in the center that evokes features of a vulva or frenulum. It also looks a bit like a tongue from the side, which is also cheeky.
The Dip is a simple toy, like all of Dame’s products. It's a waterproof vibrator clad in silicone and whisper quiet. It's a joy to use, to feel in your hand and against or inside your body. There's a level of polish and design here you don't see in toys priced as affordably as the Dip. It's worth noting that the company has since released the Dip 2.0, which we have not yet tested. Read our Best Vibrators guide for more recommendations.
Made from platinum-cured medical-grade silicone. Great for all genitals and erogenous zones.
I know what you might be thinking, “But it’s so smol!” You know what else is small? Hummingbirds, grapes, and puppies. So don’t let the smallness of anything, especially this Magic Wand Micro, cause alarm or assumption. Like all wands, the broad head of the Magic Wand Micro delivers rumbles galore that don’t just stimulate the clitoris but the entire vulva—and for a whopping three hours, when fully charged. It’s also USB rechargeable, so take that, outlet-needy wand vibrators!
Unlike some other wands—like this one’s older siblings—there’s no need to be near an outlet for your entire body to feel the surge of pleasure everywhere. Nor will you feel like you have an extra limb in bed with you thanks to its diminutive size that can easily be wielded about without fear of knocking yourself or a partner in the head. Its size also makes it travel-ready, meaning lunchtime wanks during the workday can become a daily practice. Fun fact: Feminist pornographer Erika Lust has made masturbation breaks a permanent policy in her company, so it’s not exactly unheard of or even vulgar to rub one out when you need a quick destress session. I have had dozens of wand vibrators in my life, but this one, as Renee Zellweger would say, “had me at hello.”
Head is made from food-grade silicone tested to FDA standards. Great for all genitals.
The Satisfyer Pro 2 Gen 3 (9/10, WIRED Recommends) lives up to its name. It's versatile, powerful, and surprisingly gentle. The whole body of the Gen 3 is covered in soft silicone, so it's easier to grip than the previous versions made of ABS plastic. The buttons are all conveniently located along the back of the toy, right about where your fingertips naturally fall.
It's a refined version of a tried and true design, and it feels like it. There's a level of care and craftsmanship in the build of this toy I appreciate. It’s also a suction vibrator in that it has two attachments, with each one offering two completely different sensations: the new Liquid Air Technology or the more traditional vibration feeling, which is a fun change of pace. The Gen 3 also features built-in vibration functionality. The third button on the toy cycles through vibration patterns that can heighten things when you're in the thick of it. Read our Best Clitoral Suction Toys guide for more picks.
Mouth is made from silicone, body is made from plastic. Great for all genitals.
The Tenuto Mini (6/10 WIRED Review) is the follow-up to MysteryVibe's original Tenuto, a somewhat large and clunky sex toy designed to stimulate the phallus and surrounding areas. Two of us on the team have tested the old version and found it a bit awkward. With the Tenuto Mini, MysteryVibe has addressed some of those issues and made the toy much better for it.
The new version of this cock ring is a lot smaller (hence the “Mini”), and functions as a phallus ring with extra bells and whistles. It wraps around the base of the phallus and has three vibrating motors—two on the sides and one on the top. The body is semi-rigid but flexible enough to comfortably fit around an erect phallus. WIRED reviewer Eric Ravenscraft says it's best for solo use or penetrative sex, where it can rest (and vibrate) between you and a partner, making it one hell of a fun couples vibrator. It’s also app-controlled so you don't need to worry about trying to slip your hand between you and a partner to change the speed or intensity.
Made from platinum-cured medical-grade silicone. Works best with phalluses.
Admittedly, I was late to the glass dildo party because of an unvalidated fear of having anything made of glass near me—oh, naive me and all I almost missed out on. Although I’ve had romps with a few different glass dildos, I love this set for the unique shape each one has, as well as the texture that adds extra sensation during penetration—they’re both G-spot- and P-spot-friendly, to boot. Glass sex toys have a long history. They're nontoxic and nonporous, so they're easy to clean and more durable than you might expect. The smooth body takes to a variety of lubes well, making for a smooth and sensual experience whether you're alone or with a partner.
It is, however, not flared, so it's not safe for anal use. Another nice thing about glass sex toys is that they can make elegant decor when they're not in use.
Made from hand-blown borosilicate glass. Great for external and internal use on all bodies.
Sex toys are often relegated to closets, drawers, and hidden places to keep them away from prying eyes. Keep it secret, keep it safe; Gandalf knew what he was talking about. This toy is something different though. It’s a thing you wear, not hide—like the Evenstar. The Vesper, from Crave, is a slender, powerful vibrator that pulls double duty as a bold statement necklace.
Even if you don’t wear it out—although you really should because it’s such a striking necklace—its three vibration modes still offer some major pleasure no matter where or how you choose to use it. It’s also whisper quiet in case you run into an FWB while in line for tacos at Union Pool and want some quick fun. In addition to it being a conversational piece—those of us who have it recognize it on others right away— its pointed shape makes it great for targeted stimulation, especially for those who have yet to figure out how to master ultimate clit stimulation. Another fun fact: not every part of the clitoris is equal in sensitivity. The only downside to this beauty is that it’s for external use only. It’s bold and discreet, stylish and subtle. But above all, it’s a functional addition to anyone’s collection and makes for a great first time vibrator.
Made from 316 stainless steel. Great for targeted stimulation on the clitoris, nipples, or frenulum.
Dame's take on the classic magic wand (8/10, WIRED Recommends) introduces a new angle on an old favorite—literally. Most wands are straight, and nothing on the human body is straight, so using them to reach your most sensitive areas can be pretty awkward. The Com offers an elegant solution. The wand handle is angled ergonomically so the toy does all the reaching for you. The battery life could use some work though; you’ll get about an hour out of a single charge—but that’s also why no one should ever own just one wand vibrator. Not only should your vibrators always be fully charged, but it’s important to have something else on standby and ready to finish the job that another toy might have been unable to do.
Made from platinum-cured medical-grade silicone. Great for diffuse stimulation to the vulva, phallus, or sore muscles.
Many sex toys are designed with penetration in mind, but the Laya III is all about external pressure. You can lie on your stomach with this vibrator cupping erogenous zones, or go handheld. The sensation is unique since the toy vibrates and “taps” at the same time. The multi-sensory feeling can be intense if you want, but with seven different speeds and three different programs, gentle stimulation is also an option. I also appreciate the travel lock, so my carry-on bag doesn’t start rumbling of its own accord. —Louryn Strampe
Made from unspecified silicone. Stimulating for all genitals.
Anal play can be intimidating. The Nudge butt plug (formerly called the Romp) is ridiculously affordable and just the right size for beginners—it’s not too big but not too small. The curved base keeps the toy firmly in place without being uncomfortable against your butt cheeks. The medical-grade silicone exterior is easy to clean too. Just be sure to pair it with water-based lube and always, when it comes to anal, take it slow—no matter how much of an aficionado you might be. (Read our Best Lubes guide.)
Made from medical-grade silicone. Excellent for anyone looking to experiment with anal stimulation.
Le Wand's Die Cast Wand Vibrator (8/10, WIRED Recommends) is as big as it is powerful. Almost as heavy as a Maglite flashlight, this vibrator is a great pick for anyone who wants the most powerful vibrations you can get from a cordless vibrator. Even on its lowest intensity setting it's powerful, but that makes it an excellent choice for indirect stimulation. It's strong enough to feel fully through clothes, and the ultra-strong vibrations travel far and wide through your body and deep under your skin.
The size is also a plus. The Le Wand feels hefty and durable—the die-cast aluminum exterior feels nice and cool—and because of its length, it's easy to use in different positions. This is a toy that encourages creativity, but if you have an extra sensitive clitoris—or are extra sensitive anywhere—please start at the very lowest vibration setting with this wand. Its power can initially border on shocking (read: life-changing) in a good way.
Aluminum exterior, body-safe silicone head. Great for all genitals and erogenous zones.
The Coconu Wave (8/10, WIRED Recommends) is one of my favorite new vibrators. It's asymmetrical, with a flat cut-out on one side, giving you a variety of rounded and pointed corners to use for stimulation. It's shaped like a raindrop, with a curved tip that does a great job of concentrating the vibrations it produces.
The body is clad in platinum-cured silicone, and it's soft and squishy to the touch. The silicone used on the Wave takes lube extremely well; even a couple of drops of water-based lube make the exterior of the Wave take on a texture sort of like the inside of your cheek. Slick but not squeaky or sticky.
Made from platinum-cured silicone. Great for all erogenous zones.
Dame (8/10, WIRED Recommends) is a pocket-sized, waterproof vibrator with five vibration patterns, five intensity settings, and a soft squishy body meant to contour to various erogenous zones. The vibrations resonate throughout the toy. But they’re concentrated at the tip where there’s a slight ridge in the design that’s meant to land perfectly on the clitoris, so you get targeted, but also broader stimulation all in one toy. Experimenting with the intensities, vibration modes, and even how you touch it to your (or someone else’s) body can be a lot of fun.
The Pom’s intuitive, ergonomic shape makes it easy to use in the heat of the moment. The button layout is simple. You can easily feel which button is which without looking (a huge plus), so you can rapidly switch between modes and intensities.
Made from platinum-cured medical-grade silicone. Great for all genitals.
The Bender is unique because it’s so flexible and allows you to get creative if you’re alone or with a partner (or two). You can easily shape it to fit your body in so many ways. One minute, it’s the ultimate G-spot stimulator, while the next it’s reaching deep, heading toward the A-spot, or as we call it in the biz, the anterior fornix erogenous zone. Then, with more twists and turns, you’ve got yourself a clitoral vibrator. There’s no end to such high-quality, luxurious magic that comes with Bender! It’s also waterproof, and while the vibrations aren’t as powerful as a wand-style vibrator, they’re buzzy enough to make an impact—especially for those who find many vibrators to be too intense to the touch. It’s also super quiet, even at its highest setting.
Best for vulvas and phalluses, made from unspecified silicone.
There are generally two kinds of at-home sex machines. Ones that have a toy on the end of a robotic thrusting arm and ones that you sit on like a saddle while it vibrates the seat and the attached toy. The Motorbunny Buck pulls double duty (8/10 WIRED Recommends). It's a Sybian-style machine that can also thrust.
The Buck has a vibrating seat with a toy attachment oriented vertically and provides a back-and-forth motion. You can control both kinds of stimulation from the included controller, and honestly, it provides sensations you can't get from any other toy. It's truly a unique experience. The dual functionality makes it a great pick for anyone curious about at-home sex machines, because no matter what, these things are expensive. With this one, you at least get twice the bang for your buck.
Attachments are made from unspecified silicone. Great for all genitals, internal and external stimulation.
I know too often people think of bullet vibrators as something that only people with vulvas or, more specifically, a clitoris can use and enjoy. But breaking news: Bullet vibrators can (and should) be used by everyone. Because of this, I’d be remiss not to include one of my most favorite bullets of ever: Le Wand Deux. I will never stop singing the praises of this gem.
Its delicious 15 vibration modes and six intensity levels have a design that hugs the clitoris and nipples during stimulation. It can also be used on the frenulum, perineum, and around the outside of the anus as you turn up the frisky dial during your playtime.
Made from food-grade silicone tested to FDA standards. Great for all bodies.
The Hugo is a remote-controlled prostate vibrator. If you don’t have a prostate, it still works great, packing two powerful motors with six vibration modes and 12 intensity levels. It’s waterproof, and it comes with an interesting feature: motion sensitivity. When Hugo is in motion-sensing mode, simply tilting or moving the remote control can lower or increase the intensity of the vibration. It’s a lot of fun with partners or solo, but it does take a bit of getting used to because the remote is fairly sensitive to motion.
If you’re new to anal toys, its moderate size is not intimidating. While the packaging and product materials use gendered language, the toy is excellent for all genders.
Made from food-grade silicone tested to FDA standards. Good for P-spot stimulation.
While there are a lot of lubes on the market and everyone has their absolute favorite, if you’re new to lubes, it’s best to keep things simple. That’s why Maude Organic Lube is a fantastic option. Water-based, unscented, and not full of unnecessary ingredients that can irritate sensitive skin, this lube stays slick and slippery without becoming sticky the way some water-based lubes can. Read our Best Lubes guide for other picks, including silicone and natural oil-based lubes.
We test a lot of sex toys and accessories here at WIRED, and there isn't enough room in one list for all of our favorite picks. There's barely enough room on this list for all the toys we'd consider phenomenal, let alone the ones we consider the absolute best. So here are some other products that are great in their own right and worth checking out.
Throughout this guide we reference the different materials these sex toys are made of, and there's a good reason for that. It's notoriously difficult to pin down exactly what materials some sex toy manufacturers use and how safe those are for contact with your most sensitive body parts. This is due to FDA regulations and how they classify sex toys: medical device or novelty. The former category requires rigorous testing and standards, whereas the latter makes it easier to get products into the market. There are a few sure bets, though. You want your sex toys to be, first and foremost, nonporous. A porous material will be almost impossible to fully clean and will degrade and house more and more bacteria over time. Secondly, you want it made of materials that will not shed chemicals, plastics, or other materials during regular use. The materials that generally fit that bill are surgical steel (316 or 316L steel), borosilicate glass, and silicone.
Silicone is one of the trickier materials because there are so many ways it can be made, and so many different testing standards in parts of the world. Frankly, there aren't enough studies that test which kinds of silicone are safest. There are a couple that have a solid body of research behind them, along with some common testing standards: Platinum-cured silicone and food-grade silicone. Food-grade is a label regulated by the FDA, and it means the silicone has been tested to make sure it doesn’t leach harmful chemicals into food. Crave cofounder Michael Topolovac says, “Once you go below food grade, a lot of things come into play that are hard to verify.” Platinum-cured silicone is safer than standard (peroxide-cured) silicone because the chemicals used to make the silicone are more completely consumed during the process, leaving nothing behind to leach into your body. Platinum-cured silicones are surprisingly odorless for this reason.
njoy anal plug Medical grade is a label you'll see pretty often, but if it's not backed up with the specific regulatory body or testing standard used to determine that it's medical grade, it leaves me wondering why that hasn’t been disclosed. If the manufacturer specifies which kind of silicone it uses, we will list it in the product description. If it's unclear, we'll list it as unspecified silicone. That doesn't mean it's bad! It just means the specific kind used in that toy isn't listed or hasn't been provided to us.